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For couples that want to succeed – but don’t know where to start.
Within weeks, you'll have the tools to create connection & clarify communication.
If you’ve tried making changes, following advice from friends and reading relationship books, but you still feel like your relationship is in trouble then keep reading to see if our services are for you.
The sooner you find real solutions, the faster you can address your relationship problems. Getting close again, feeling listened to and understood, having your partner engaged in communication, and cultivating a trusting relationship can happen quicker than you think.
Trying to sweep relationship problems under the rug leads to bigger problems. Most couples wait 6 years after problems start to get help. Why wait 6 years, when in your first treatment session, you can have practical tools to implement immediately to make your relationship better?
Virtual Individual Relationship Therapy
Investment: 300 per 50-minute session | Average sessions per client: 8-15
You can improve your relationship, even if your partner isn’t ready for therapy.
Individual Relationship Therapy can help you increase intimacy and connection by focusing on yourself. Through the assessment and treatment process, you will learn the barriers getting in the way of emotional connection, what leads to relationship disengagement, obstacles that prevent you from being heard and understood, and what stops you and your partner from feeling like a team.
Our step-by-step approach begins with a relationship history questionnaire, followed by a virtual assessment meeting to learn about the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship and your goals. After your assessment is complete, we will custom tailor your treatment plan to meet the needs of your unique relationship, bridging the latest in relationship science with the art of applying it to you.
Develop the skills to create close, respectful, and engaged relationships. Walk away with action-oriented strategies you can implement in your relationship years after therapy is complete. You will leave counselling with relationship resources that range from communication scripts to strategies that re-wire how you think about relationships. You will understand the foundation that makes a successful relationship work and how to apply straightforward relationship principles in the privacy of your home.
Virtual Couples Therapy
Investment: 300 per 50-minute session | Average sessions per couple: 8-15
Couples Therapy helps couples overcome emotional distance and repair past hurts, to create a connected and peaceful relationship.
Couples Therapy helps couples restore emotional intimacy, bring fun into the relationship, resolve conflicts, and heal emotional wounds. Through a targeted relationship assessment and treatment process, couples learn the obstacles that are putting a brick wall between them and the relationship they desire. They learn action-oriented strategies to overcome the problems in their relationship. Couples leave therapy feeling heard, understood, and connected to their partner.
Our fine-tuned process begins with an assessment. The couple collaborates with the therapist to identify the key issues that need to be addressed, as well as understanding the strengths and weaknesses of the relationship. The assessment is composed of an in-depth relationship questionnaire, individual interviews, and an interview together. The step-by-step approach allows your therapist to pinpoint the issues that need to be addressed and target the treatment to give you the right tools to help you solve your relationship problems quickly.
Treatment is focused on the specific needs of your unique relationship. Through work in session and take-home resources, you will develop the skills to create a connected, respectful, and engaged relationship. You will be provided resources that range from communication skills templates, conflict resolution blueprints, to fun games that cultivate connection. Couples leave therapy equipped with guides, and new skills to stay connected and engaged for years to come.
Optional Add On: The Gottman Relationship Check Up is an in-depth assessment of the strengths and weaknesses of a couple's relationship.
Virtual Marathon Couples Therapy
Investment: 4859.99 per 3 days | The entire process is approximately 16 hours
Ideal for couples who cannot commit to regular meetings and have an issue they want to address quickly.
Marathon Couples Therapy is a powerful way to target a problem, repair emotional wounds, and learn skills to create connection. In this highly targeted format, couples swiftly move through problems and gain tools they can use after treatment.
Marathon Couples Therapy starts with an assessment and initial interview that is completed prior to the marathon sessions to ensure problem suitability. The assessment is composed of an in-depth relationship questionnaire and individual interviews. Given the couple is suitable they move on to Marathon Couples Therapy where the assessment process is continued together.
With the goals identified, the treatment plan will be fine-tuned to quickly move through the Marathon Therapy.
Treatment will be highly targeted on a main problem in the relationship. Sessions will be spent using tried and tested templates that guide couples through difficult issues, working on communication to overcome barriers, and using lighthearted games to increase connection.
Mental Health Individual Therapy
Investment: 300 per 50-minute session | Average sessions per client: 8-15
Mental Health Therapy is available to individuals who are struggling with day-to-day functioning due to mental health concerns. Through the assessment process the therapist will pin-point the kind of mental health barriers and recommend a treatment plan to overcome issues that are causing distress in your life.
The fine-tuned process starts with a mental health screening assessment, supplemented by online questionnaires. Once your assessment is complete, a treatment plan will be tailored to your individual needs. Using evidence-based practice, therapy will be action-oriented, giving you tools for continued success, even after therapy is complete.
Develop the skills to overcome mental health challenges. Through coping skills or learning to think differently, clients leave therapy with a clear understanding of their problem, at-home strategies to work through problems, and increased ability to cope.
Issues Frequently Addressed:
Creating Connection
Communication Skills
Emotional Wounds
Pornography
Affairs
Conflict
Emotional Intimacy
Physical Intimacy
Substance Problems
Depression
Anxiety
Trauma
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5 Reasons Individual Relationship Therapy or Couples Therapy Will Not Work for You
Save your money and do not engage in therapy if:
Domestic violence is present in the relationship.
Therapy is usually not the answer to domestic violence. Couples experiencing battery should never engage in relationship therapy. Persons experiencing battery should look for help to leave the relationship. Couples who have made mistakes and who have infrequently pushed, slapped, poked, or shoved may be suitable for couples therapy.
One partner has already decided the relationship is over.
If you already know you are going to leave the relationship, but are just doing it to appease the other person before ending the relationship, it’s unlikely therapy will be successful.
There is a relationship secret.
As the saying goes “you’re as sick as your secrets” and so is your relationship. From secret lovers to secret drug use, secrets shake the foundation of relationships and couples therapy. If a secret has been shared, then therapy can be useful to heal the betrayal left by the secret and rebuild trust.
You want the therapist to take your side.
A therapist is not a referee. If you are looking for someone to help you blame your partner this is not for you. Success depends on each person’s ability to take guidance from the therapist and engage in therapeutic interventions.
Lack of action outside of session.
Therapy is not magic or a quick fix. It requires intentional effort, practice and persistence to implement changes outside of session.
Therapy Methods that are Backed by Science
Stop wasting time on relationship help that does not work. Ember Relationship Psychology uses two main approaches to couples and relationship problems: The Gottman Method and Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
The Gottman Method
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The Gottman Method emphasizes a focused approach to solving the problems in each relationship. The goals of this therapy are to foster closeness, enhance friendship, tackle conflict in a helpful way, and help couples create shared meaning for their relationship.
The Gottman Method helps couples become aware of the factors that are predictive of divorce, and how to overcome common relationship pitfalls.
Relationship assessment and treatment is based on the Sound Relationship House Theory. It is designed as a guide to help therapists and couples understand the strengths and weaknesses of their relationship. Based on where the weaknesses arise, there are specific tools to help strengthen the weaknesses. The components of the Sound Relationship House are: trust, commitment, build love maps, share fondness and admiration, turn towards instead of away, the positive perspective, mange conflict, make life dreams come true, and create shared meaning.
Using the Sound Relationship House Theory, the couples in conjunction with the therapist are able to pinpoint problems and design goals, that are consistent with the research around that problem. With clarity around problems, the therapist can pick evidence-based interventions to help couples solve their problems.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
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CBT is a collaborative approach to solving relationship problems. By understanding how people think about relationships and how they behave, the therapist and the couple are able jointly understand what is leading to relationship problems.
Cognition refers to the thoughts you have about your partner, positive or negative. Thoughts influence how you feel in your relationship. Therapy looks at identifying unhelpful thinking patterns, challenging the way you are thinking, and developing different ways of thinking your relationship. If we think about our partner in negative ways, we are likely to behave in ways that will be destructive to the relationship.
Behavior refers to the actions you take in your relationship. By exploring your behavior cycle, and what is helping or hindering, you can experiment with different relationship promoting behaviors.
Using thinking skills and behavioral strategies couples can re-wire how they think about their relationships. This re-wiring leads to behaviors that are positive and helpful in relationships. Therapy success is determined by finding new ways to think about your relationship and your partner, and making behavioral changes to your relationship.
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Frequently Asked Questions
I’ve attended relationship counselling before, how will this be different?
Our clients notice this therapy is different. From the assessment process, treatment, and the resources they are provided. This is not just talk therapy. Our seamless step-by-step process helps clients target the issues that need to be worked on, are given take-home resources, and engage in goal-oriented sessions so clients learn new skills in a short timeframe.
Is Amber Dalsin, M.Sc., C.Psych Covered by Benefits Plans?
Amber Dalsin, M.Sc., C.Psych.(Psychologist) is covered by most extended heath care benefits plans or insurance plans. Check with your benefits plan for coverage limits and requirements. Many plans do not cover the full fee.
Following your session, you will be provided an invoice. The invoice will have the information required to submit to your coverage provider.
When it comes to Marathon Couples Therapy, be sure to carefully review your benefits policy.
What are the Fees at Ember Relationship Psychology?
Fees are typically $300 per 50-minute session or $450 per 75-minute session.
Please note: the Ontario Psychological Association guidelines suggests Psychologists charge $225 per 50 minute session. Ember Relationship Psychology's fees are above the suggested guidelines from the Ontario Psychological Association. By engaging in services you understand and agree to Ember Relationship Psychology's fees which are set above Ontario's guidelines.
Are you seeing clients in-person?
No, at this time all services are virtual.
Do some problems take more than 15 sessions?
Yes, many problems and other factors influence the length of treatment. Longstanding issues around betrayal, affairs, or substance use issues typically take longer. In addition, clients who do not implement strategies outside of session typically do not see quick results.
Can your methods heal all relationship problems?
No. There are some relationships that will not benefit from individual relationship therapy or couples therapy. Even well-intention and hard-working couples may discover through therapy their problems cannot be solved or they do not want to be together.
What is your cancellation policy?
You may cancel your appointment without being charged up to 48 hours in advance. Cancellations with less than 48 hours notice will be billed the full fee.
I worked with Amber Dalsin, M.Sc., C.Psych, in the past on other things. Can I still work with her?
If you were a previous client of Amber Dalsin, M.Sc., C.Psych (formerly Amber Mckenzie) you are welcome to contact us to book in with her.
What if I can’t afford 8-15 sessions?
You are welcome to contact us to see if we can get started with what you can afford. Because we give practical tools and guides, many clients find that even with a few sessions, they have resources that serve as a path to change.
If you wish to access additional resources by Ember Relationship Psychology, check out our guides, or online programs.
You may wish to access other service providers who have no-cost or low-cost services.
