33. 3 Steps to Communicating So He Listens
Avoid doing this if you want good communication with your spouse.
3 Steps to Communicating So He Listens
Simple Strategy to Be HEARD & Understood
To be heard, understood, respected, appreciated, connected - fundamental desire. This human needs is found in all races, religions, and groups- its woven into the fabric of our being. If you’ve wondered the strategy to use, so that he will listen, this is the episode for you.
To discuss the episode, we are going to use an example from the TV show the Crown and how in this one conversation Prince Charles (at least momentarily focuses on his relationship and not with that of his mistress). You can tell what I have been watching as you listen to the episodes. Princess Diana and Prince Charles and a key moment between them, where they are both feeling, heard, understood, and connected. I want to point out how right they were (or how right the writers of the TV show were).
We are going to look at the 3 steps to be heard and understood.
1. Start with feelings
2. Describe the facts of the story you are telling yourself
3. Let your partner be the hero not the villain
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This podcast is for informational purposes only. See a couples therapist in your area for specific advice for your specific relationship.
This podcast is for information only. See couples therapist in your area for help for your relationship problems.
Host- Amber Dalsin is a psychologist and couples therapist in Mississauga Ontario.